What We Learned In The First Year of Marriage

Hello you, and welcome to inside the mind of an Obsessive Compulsive Designer.

In celebration of our first anniversary as husband and wife, I thought I’d do a post diving into a few things we both learned in the first year of being officially married. It’s been a whirlwind of a year but it’s been a great one. I think you’ll find the lessons we learned are a little different than what you usually see; but, they’re all good lessons that make us love each other all the more!

Similarity & Consistency

People say that the first year of marriage is the hardest year you’ll have together. We found that things stayed quite consistent for us. We had lived together for a couple years before getting married so there was no REAL big change in that department. We left for the wedding from the same home, got married, and returned to the same home and did the same things. However, the hardest year we encountered was the first year we lived together. It’s hard blending two different people’s schedules and habits, especially with someone you love. We have never been traditional so I guess living together before the wedding saved us the hard first year that everyone talks about!

The Next Big Step

The two biggest questions after you get married are about buying a house and having a baby. I didn’t even make it out of our reception before someone asked when the babies are coming. Like, can we just appreciate the fact we just got married two seconds ago?! For some reason, people are always going to be looking into your future for the next big exciting step. Your answer to those questions will start to become routine. 😉

The Ominous Word

The word marriage or the fact that I’m someone’s wife doesn’t bother me or change anything. My husband and I weren’t affected by the fact that we have an official title. Some people get giddy or go overboard with the Mr. and Mrs. décor throughout their home; however, we didn’t. We have been together for so long, and have been living together for so long, that we didn’t view the wedding as anything quite as life-changing. We got married to essentially declare to the state that we love each other. We still love each other just as much and just the same.

It’s All In A Name

If you’re the lucky duck who gets to deal with the name change, I wish you all the best. I’m still finding things to this day that need my last name changed. It is a never ending process. I thought I took care of everything when we first got married but I still consistently find new companies that have my old information. It’s a long tedious process…yay!

Patience & Compromise

As with any relationship, it’s taught us a higher level of patience and compromise. Of course, by six years into our relationship, we had learned to be patient and compromise with each other. However, after marriage, the things we needed to compromise on or be patient with doubled in scale. Life gave us more opportunities to work on these skills at a higher level. It wasn’t a compromise on where we wanted to eat or whose family holiday we would go to on which day. We now have to compromise on vehicles, houses, life changing opportunities. It’s like our entire relationship was a training exercise for the big choices we now have to make.

Leave me a comment below and tell me what the most important thing you’ve learned in your marriage is thus far!

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4 thoughts on “What We Learned In The First Year of Marriage

  1. Congratulations on your 1 year anniversary! I have been married for 6 years now and like you, when we married nothing really changed because we were already living together and had been together for 7 years before we got married. For me the name change thing was difficult. I felt for a while like a I had lost my identity when I lost my surname. Eventually I got used to it though. Changing your name on everything is an absolute nightmare though!! Took me years to get everything changed xx

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  2. Congratulations! I had to really think back to that first year, (we have been together for 31 now) but what hazy memories I have lead me to believe that you summarized it beautifully! I hope you have many, many more-and the “baby question”, let them just figure it out for themselves!!

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