What We Learned In The First Year of Marriage

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In celebration of our first anniversary as husband and wife, I thought I’d do a post diving into a few things we both learned in the first year of being officially married. It’s been a whirlwind of a year but it’s been a great one. I think you’ll find the lessons we learned are a little different than what you usually see; but, they’re all good lessons that make us love each other all the more!

Similarity & Consistency

People say that the first year of marriage is the hardest year you’ll have together. We found that things stayed quite consistent for us. We had lived together for a couple years before getting married so there was no REAL big change in that department. We left for the wedding from the same home, got married, and returned to the same home and did the same things. However, the hardest year we encountered was the first year we lived together. It’s hard blending two different people’s schedules and habits, especially with someone you love. We have never been traditional so I guess living together before the wedding saved us the hard first year that everyone talks about!

The Next Big Step

The two biggest questions after you get married are about buying a house and having a baby. I didn’t even make it out of our reception before someone asked when the babies are coming. Like, can we just appreciate the fact we just got married two seconds ago?! For some reason, people are always going to be looking into your future for the next big exciting step. Your answer to those questions will start to become routine. 😉

The Ominous Word

The word marriage or the fact that I’m someone’s wife doesn’t bother me or change anything. My husband and I weren’t affected by the fact that we have an official title. Some people get giddy or go overboard with the Mr. and Mrs. décor throughout their home; however, we didn’t. We have been together for so long, and have been living together for so long, that we didn’t view the wedding as anything quite as life-changing. We got married to essentially declare to the state that we love each other. We still love each other just as much and just the same.

It’s All In A Name

If you’re the lucky duck who gets to deal with the name change, I wish you all the best. I’m still finding things to this day that need my last name changed. It is a never ending process. I thought I took care of everything when we first got married but I still consistently find new companies that have my old information. It’s a long tedious process…yay!

Patience & Compromise

As with any relationship, it’s taught us a higher level of patience and compromise. Of course, by six years into our relationship, we had learned to be patient and compromise with each other. However, after marriage, the things we needed to compromise on or be patient with doubled in scale. Life gave us more opportunities to work on these skills at a higher level. It wasn’t a compromise on where we wanted to eat or whose family holiday we would go to on which day. We now have to compromise on vehicles, houses, life changing opportunities. It’s like our entire relationship was a training exercise for the big choices we now have to make.

Leave me a comment below and tell me what the most important thing you’ve learned in your marriage is thus far!

Photo cred as always goes to the amazing Capture Life Portraits 🙂

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One Year Anniversary

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Hello you, and welcome to inside the mind of an Obsessive Compulsive Designer.

How am I writing this post already? It seems like we just got married last month! However, when I really sit down and think about it, we did so much during this past year and experienced so many things. It’s been a hell of a time and I’m glad this is just the first of many. You know we had to do something great to celebrate our first year of marriage; so, naturally, we called our favorite photographer. 🙂

Capture Life Portraits has been a staple of ours and has captured so many great moments of ours together. Kirstie has got me very excited to continue this tradition of anniversary photo shoots! She does such lovely work and I love getting together to be creative together. She really set the scene for us with a little picnic full of the essentials. Be sure you check out the blog post she wrote about our session and to see even more pictures from the shoot!

And, because I know you’re going to ask, I’ll provide a link to my dress here. It comes in this wine color, black, or white. It’s absolutely gorgeous and the wine color is to die for this season. I may have to break it out for a Christmas party this year!

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Blog Photography Tips For The Minimal Sunlight Months

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If you rely mostly on natural sunlight, as I do, you know the struggle of the winter months where there’s barely enough sunlight in the day to get your usual work done. I always hate these darker months because it makes photographing things for my blog SO much harder. Here are my three tips on how I combat the lack of sunlight and get great quality pictures year round.

Plan Mass Shoots For Weekends

It’s no secret that I’m a huge planner. I have my blog posts planned out months in advance which makes it very easy to see what is coming down the pipeline. I usually look and the next couple weeks and plan out all the shots I want to get for each post and take them all at once! I live for the weekends because those are my big photoshoot days. I’ll take a week or two’s worth of blog photos in those couple days. Planning so far ahead really makes the darker months more manageable!

Natural Light LED Bulbs

I bought LED bulbs that mimick the natural sunlight and I.CANNOT.STRESS.HOW.MUCH.I.LOVE.THESE. OMG these are so much better than the usual yellow or orange tinted lights that are standard in every place you live. In my apartment, I just switched out the standard yellow bulbs but held on to them so I can take my beautiful LED bulbs with me when I moved. It’s such an easy switch that homeowners and renters can do!

Work Around The Sun

Depending on your job, this may or may not be an easy task. If you’re someone who has the ability to switch shifts or pick and choose your hours. I highly recommend choosing hours throughout the year that work with natural lighting. It will make your life so much easier not needing to stress about getting all your shots in and gives you the freedom to blog on the fly.

Photo cred goes to the amazing Kirstie of Capture Life Portraits. A new photo shoot coming to you soon 🙂

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November To-Do List

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My to-do list this month has a very distinct theme. We moved last month so a lot of my list this month will be taken over by the house; but, from what I hear, that’s normal. Everyone wishes us luck now that we are homeowners and I’m starting to understand why we need the luck (haha). I hope you enjoy getting a peek into my everyday life!

Unpack Everything

We have been in the house for about two weeks now and we have done a pretty good job moving in and making the house a home. However, I still have more boxes than I’d like to admit just laying around half empty. My goal is to be completely unpacked by the end of the month!

Get Back Into A Schedule

With everything everywhere, it’s been a fun process trying to figure out how my routines work in this new house. I’m definitely still out of wack and struggling to get into a stable routine. I’m hoping that fully unpacking and organizing will help me get into a good schedule for day to day life and blogging as well! We’ve been so incredibly busy that my blogging schedule is definitely all over the place. I apologize! I promise, this month, I’ll get back on track.

Discover New Things In Our Area

We moved to a completely different town then we were in before and I’m so unfamiliar with the area. My goal is to just drive around the area and discover all the cute restaurants and secret places to go!

Painting Party

Before we moved all of our stuff into the house, we spent a solid 3 days painting. The house was very brown and very dark colors everywhere. If you know me, you know that is not my style at all. I’m so excited to show you guys before and after’s! But, before I can do that, I need to finish up all the painting!

Plan & Order Christmas Presents

With all this moving business, I’m tired of being behind and playing catchup on everything. I want to get Christmas completely done this month so all I have to do is wrap in the month of December! It’s awfully ambitious but I think it can be done (especially with Amazon one click hehe).

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Favorite Blog Posts of October

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October being my favorite month, mostly due to Halloween, so I’m particularly sad that this month is over. It was a hell of a busy month! We moved into our first house and I swear that alone ate up our whole month with planning, packing, moving, cleaning, projects. Ugh! I could seriously use another week or two of October. But, sadly, November is upon us and I’m sure this month will fly by just as fast! Take a look at my four favorite posts from this past month and be sure to tell me down below what your favorite was!

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Unique Wedding Color Schemes For Every Season

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20 Cheap/Free Fall Date Night Ideas

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We Are Officially Homeowners

New Home Inspiration

New Home Mood Board

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Things To Do This Halloween Season

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Halloween is my favorite holiday BY FAR! I go crazy for this holiday, as you’ll see in posts later this month. (Yes, I’ve already planned out my Halloween posts.) Today I wanted to talk about a few fun things to do this month in preparation for Halloween. I already posted a fall bucket list so be sure to hop over there if you’re looking for some of the less spooky aspects of fall! I just wanted to dedicate a full post for Halloween activities. So, without further ado, let’s do this!

Haunted House

Obviously. By far the most popular Halloween activity. It’s a staple in everyone’s Halloween to-do list.

Scary Movie Marathon

I live for the scares! Pack all your friends into your living room and run through all your scary Netflix movies. Grab the popcorn, a cozy blanket, and keep your friends close. And maybe schedule a sleepover for that night? J

Decorate to Scare

Get in the Halloween spirit by decking out your room, house, yard, etc. with all things scary! Don’t have any décor? Invite some friends out with you and hit up your local Target, Dollar Store, and Hobby Lobby. I love this idea for a fun and unique day to spend with friends!

See the Newest Scary Movie

Because no one does Halloween better than the movies. Go see the newest thriller in theaters with some of your friends!

Go To Local Haunt Spots

No matter where you live, there is always a nearby town with some weird history and a spooky background. Find some haunts around your area for some cheap fun and a few thrills. Maybe it’s a forest, abandoned building, an old house. Get to Google and find the craziest haunts in your area!

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20 Cheap/Free Fall Date Night Ideas

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The fall season has some of the best and most thematic things to do. If you’re looking for some great date ideas or even some cheap friend activities, look no further! I made a fall bucket list for you to enjoy this season. You’ll notice that there aren’t any Halloween related activities on this list. Don’t worry, I have a Things To Do This Halloween Season post coming shortly (don’t think I forgot!). Enjoy and let me know down below what else you’ll be doing this fall season.

 

Corn Maze

Outdoor Movie Night

Pumpkin Carving Contest

Apple Orchard

Local Farmer’s Market

Pumpkin Patch

Tailgate

Scenic Walk/Drive

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Toast Pumpkin Seeds

Hay Ride

Night Drive to Stargaze

Find the Best Caramel Apple

Visit an Arboretum

Make the Best Apple Cider

Host a Friendsgiving Together

Bonfire

Baking Day – pie, cookies, etc.

Visit a Petting Zoo

Do a Fall Themed DIY

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