Hello you, and welcome to inside the mind of an Obsessive Compulsive Designer.
In celebration of our first anniversary as husband and wife, I thought I’d do a post diving into a few things we both learned in the first year of being officially married. It’s been a whirlwind of a year but it’s been a great one. I think you’ll find the lessons we learned are a little different than what you usually see; but, they’re all good lessons that make us love each other all the more!
Similarity & Consistency
People say that the first year of marriage is the hardest year you’ll have together. We found that things stayed quite consistent for us. We had lived together for a couple years before getting married so there was no REAL big change in that department. We left for the wedding from the same home, got married, and returned to the same home and did the same things. However, the hardest year we encountered was the first year we lived together. It’s hard blending two different people’s schedules and habits, especially with someone you love. We have never been traditional so I guess living together before the wedding saved us the hard first year that everyone talks about!
The Next Big Step
The two biggest questions after you get married are about buying a house and having a baby. I didn’t even make it out of our reception before someone asked when the babies are coming. Like, can we just appreciate the fact we just got married two seconds ago?! For some reason, people are always going to be looking into your future for the next big exciting step. Your answer to those questions will start to become routine. 😉
The Ominous Word
The word marriage or the fact that I’m someone’s wife doesn’t bother me or change anything. My husband and I weren’t affected by the fact that we have an official title. Some people get giddy or go overboard with the Mr. and Mrs. décor throughout their home; however, we didn’t. We have been together for so long, and have been living together for so long, that we didn’t view the wedding as anything quite as life-changing. We got married to essentially declare to the state that we love each other. We still love each other just as much and just the same.
It’s All In A Name
If you’re the lucky duck who gets to deal with the name change, I wish you all the best. I’m still finding things to this day that need my last name changed. It is a never ending process. I thought I took care of everything when we first got married but I still consistently find new companies that have my old information. It’s a long tedious process…yay!
Patience & Compromise
As with any relationship, it’s taught us a higher level of patience and compromise. Of course, by six years into our relationship, we had learned to be patient and compromise with each other. However, after marriage, the things we needed to compromise on or be patient with doubled in scale. Life gave us more opportunities to work on these skills at a higher level. It wasn’t a compromise on where we wanted to eat or whose family holiday we would go to on which day. We now have to compromise on vehicles, houses, life changing opportunities. It’s like our entire relationship was a training exercise for the big choices we now have to make.
Leave me a comment below and tell me what the most important thing you’ve learned in your marriage is thus far!
Photo cred as always goes to the amazing Capture Life Portraits 🙂