Who To & Who Not To Invite To Your Wedding

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The struggle of having a gorgeous well thought-out wedding is balancing the budget so you can afford what you want and no go broke. When people look at trimming down their budget, usually, the first thing to go are the actual guests. It’s hard to keep a trimmed down list of everyone you want to be present on your special day. Most times, the guest list can start to get a little out of hand. Everyone seems to think they need an invite to your wedding…along with their friends, family, and significant others. Today I want to give you guys a little cheat sheet when it comes to the guest list. I’m here to help you figure out who to invite; and more importantly, who not to invite to your big day.

Friends

You’ve spoken a fair amount in the past year. Yes, they get an invite.

You haven’t spoken to them in the past year and don’t consider them to be a significant part of your life. No, don’t bother.

Parent’s Friends

Do you consider them to be family friends, or even your friends? If yes, they get an invite.

Have you talked to them more than twice for a lengthy amount of time? If so, don’t bother.

Extended Family

You’ve spoken a fair amount in the past year. Yes, they get an invite.

You haven’t spoken to them in the past year and don’t consider them to be a significant part of your life. No, don’t bother.

Guest’s Significant Others

Has your guest been with this person for over a year, already engaged to them, or married? If yes, they get an invite.

Has your guest been dating this person less than a year? If so, don’t bother.

Coworkers

Do you directly work with them and engage in conversation frequently? Yes, they get an invite.

Are they in another department and you don’t speak as often or freely with them? If so, don’t bother.

Leave a comment below to tell me if this helped you out with your wedding planning and if you’d like to see more in the future!
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Wedding Wednesday – Honeymooners Paradise

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For those who may not know, I just recently got back from my honeymoon; so, it’s been quite a while since I’ve sat down and written a post for you guys. I hope you all enjoyed the working girl mini-series last week while I was away! I sure had fun writing those posts for you all and I received so many wonderful comments and reactions to them. You make me feel so loved! 🙂


Speaking of love, I wanted to start kicking off all of my honeymoon posts today with a lovey post about our accommodations. (You know I wouldn’t visit a beautiful place and not take excessive amounts of pictures!) We went down to Jamaica to stay at one of Sandal’s gorgeous resorts, South Coast aka Whitehouse. We had an amazing time and the views were amazing no matter where you looked. More on that later, I wanted to dedicate this post to those brides to be out there researching various honeymoon locations. I knew we were going to have an amazing time; but, after visiting, I can officially say that Sandal’s knows how to treat their honeymooners right!


Upon arrival, Sandal’s makes sure you feel welcome and get a jump start on your relaxation (with help of champagne). Everyone gets a glass while you check in; but, after settling into our suite, a lovely butler brought a complimentary bottle of champagne and champagne flutes to our room for us to enjoy at our leisure. And enjoy we did! It’s hard not to enjoy while looking out at an amazing view! Later in the week, they left us a cute little package with a handwritten note from the manager congratulating us on our honeymoon, a sweet little door sign, and a form for a complimentary room service breakfast. (Which was much needed on a rainy morning towards the end of the trip!) It was such a sweet little gift and the handwritten note definitely meant a lot!


For those honeymooners that want to avoid the hustle and bustle of the Caribbean, I highly recommend the month of May as it seemed to be more deserted than I had anticipated. It made for a perfectly intimate honeymoon without being completely isolated. After going to an all-inclusive resort, I don’t see us traveling any other way ever again. It was so nice to just walk around without worrying about cost or if we brought enough cash with us. It was such a great time and I highly recommend Sandal’s Whitehouse to all looking for a nice getaway! Even if you think it’s going to be too much money, I recommend contacting a good travel agent in your area and have them look into it. I’ll leave a link here for a past post explaining the benefits of booking through a travel agent. You won’t want to miss it! I think you’ll be surprised at the kind of rates they can get you.

Leave me a comment below and tell me your dream honeymoon location!
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April Favorite Posts This Month

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It’s that time of the month again where I like to review the past month and reflect on my favorite posts (and your favorite posts). There were a lot of posts this month that really stood out to me. I think this month was the hardest decision I’ve faced yet to just pick four favorites. But, here they are! If you find one you’ve missed, click on the title to go take a look!

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DIY Body Scrub

Because when you can count on something being all natural and cheap, there is no contest!

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Cocktails Taste Better On Rooftops

Girl’s nights out are some of my favorite nights. Rooftops also make them pretty great too.

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Wedding Season Has Sprung

This won’t be the last this year! Check out some spring wedding guest fashion in this teal inspired post.

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5 Places To Eat This Weekend

Tired of your normal go-to restaurants? Here are some of my suggestions!

Let me know in the comments which was your favorite and what posts you’d like to see in May!
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5 Thoughts Every Bride Has While Planning

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Congratulations on your engagement! Now, enjoy ruthless non-stop planning for the next year of your life. It’s a wonderful burden and I wish you all the best! Mwah!

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I’m going to have the biggest, most extravagant wedding of the year!

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Wow, why is everything SO expensive?

Who cares

Who cares what kind of napkin rings there are!?

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I just hope I get a piece of cake…

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This is going to be the best day of our lives. 🙂

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Wedding Season Has Sprung

| Dress : JC Penny   |  Shoes : Charlotte Russe  |  Necklace  : Target  |

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The first of many wedding this year! It’s definitely going to be a crazy busy summer with all the many weddings we have on our plate. But, my favorite part, it also means some great outfit posts are coming your way! This outfit seemed perfect for this early spring afternoon and I’m definitely glad I went light on the layers. (Always fun dressing for the chaotic Midwest weather!) It was great to see that our nasty Midwest weather warmed up for the occasion! It was a beautiful day and we are so happy for our good friends to begin their lives together. It was a gorgeous setting and a very fun day!

Sadly, the pieces in this outfit have been in my wardrobe for quite some time but I’ve found some very close dupes. I actually prefer the new necklace I found for this outfit haha! Be sure to check it out. 🙂

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3 Biggest Benefits of a Smaller Wedding

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Trying to decide between a small or large wedding? Trying to convince your fiancé to go with a small wedding? Trying to explain to family and friends why you aren’t doing a big event? Look no further. Here are the only reasons you need!

Save Money

Spend thousands of dollars on a venue you’ll be in for less than twelve hours? Spend hundreds on food for everyone? Spend hundreds on flowers that will wilt in a couple days? Spend thousands on a dress you’ll only wear once? Spend hundreds on save the dates, invitations, and thank you’s that people are just going to throw away? I’m sorry. Do I need to continue?

More Intimate Occasion

Because nothing says thank you for being here and celebrating this incredibly intimate event of our lives like timed rotations to everyone at the reception to force a bit of small talk before moving on to the next person. This is such a huge day for the both of you, be sure to enjoy it by inviting your closest family and friends. Less people to talk to means you get to enjoy each other’s company more (and actual enjoy your day).

Less Pressure & Stress

Planning a wedding is like a full time job by the time you factor in finding the inspiration, finding local companies that can bring your inspiration to reality, price shopping local vendors, touring and meeting with vendors, and putting all the final little details on everything. If it wasn’t hard work, they wouldn’t have professionals you could pay to do all of it for you! Take some of the stress off of yourself and plan a smaller event. All of this craziness doesn’t even encompass the craziness of family. You may feel pressure from one or more family members, or soon to be family members, on what they envision your day looking like. The pressure to live up to everyone’s likes and dislikes can be overwhelming!

When it all comes down to it, my biggest point to make with this post is to really just streamline your event and make it the fun easygoing day you want. Having a smaller event really allows you to put your full attention to detail in other aspects of your day. Spend the day enjoying the smaller company you invited, save some money, and be less stressed. Who could want more than that?
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Wedding Wednesday – Picking The Date

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How fitting to have this be the first post of this love filled month! Let’s talk about the very first wedding planning you’ll do after the excitement of the engagement has worn off. I don’t think many people realize that picking the date is such a huge part of the planning. Depending on the time of year, it will dictate the location, color schemes, flower season, outfit choices, EVERYTHING. Here are some helpful tips to help you narrow down the 365 days you have to choose from!

Convenience

This goes for you as well as your guests. You may want to wait until after graduation, or making sure you get married before you move across the country from your family, etc. As for your guests, if you or some of your most important family/friends are still students, waiting for summer/spring/winter break may be a good choice to avoid overcomplicating schedules. Making sure you take all the big milestones into consideration for yourself and your guests will ensure you all have a great time!

Season

Depending on the climate you live in may very well have a major role to play in selecting your date. If you are like me and hate the snow, having a winter wedding may not be for you. The season will dictate where you will have your wedding (indoor vs outdoor), what your guests will wear, and who may be able to make it (if you select the blizzard months your guests may not make the drive).

Significance

If you have any dates in mind that you would love to use for their significance, those would be a top choice. Your anniversary, Valentine’s Day, your grandfather’s birthday that you wanted to honor.

Colors

Many young girls dream of their wedding and Pinterest has made that habit all the easier over the years. You may have a color scheme in mind that you have decided you need to have. Depending on the colors, you may be limited to certain seasons where those colors look the best.

Spatiality

Another factor you may want to consider is the space between your wedding and other large holidays, birthdays, or other weddings. The last thing you want to do is overwhelm yourself, and others, by squeezing in too many events in such a short span.

All of these factors won’t apply to everyone because everyone’s opinions and tastes differ. Some people may want a wedding on a large holiday or may not care which season they get married. These are just helpful tips to keep in mind when you are completely unsure what date you want to get married on. I hope these helped narrow your scope! Happy wedding planning!
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