How To Find YOUR Wedding Dress

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This was a highly requested topic by many of you and for good reason! Selecting your wedding dress isn’t the easy beautiful process that you see on TV or in movies. It’s a tough process but the process can be made much simpler with some planning. It’s one of the most important details of wedding planning and deserves to be as stress free as possible. For many people, it’s one of the most stressful due to lack of availability in your area, body image issues, not knowing what style you like, budget, etc… Needless to say, there are way too many factors that come to play in this decision. Let’s make it easier!

Deciding What You Want

I think one of the best things I did during this stage of selecting my dress was to look at models with similar body types to mine. I knew, with my body shape, a dress I saw on a deathly thin model was not going to look the same on my body. The worst thing you can do is create unrealistic standards of dresses in your mind. Once you know how dresses look like on girls with similar body types to your own, you’ll be able to see the styles and fabrics that will best fit your frame.

Pulling Inspiration

Pinterest, Pinterest, Pinterest. Pinterest is great to search around for the styles you’re wanting once you’ve seen how they work on your body type. My one problem with Pinterest is that it’s overflowing with thin models in fabulous custom unattainable dresses. Before you flock to Pinterest, it’s essential to know your styles that you have to work with. Pull a few images that best represent what you want to look at and save them BEFORE going to a dress boutique. Knowing a smaller scope to look at when you get to the shop is great and gives you direction.

Dress Boutique Do’s & Do Not’s

Do search for certain designers to see what they actually carry and what dresses are actually available in your area.

Don’t rely on your Pinterest finds to actually exist and be stocked at every shop you visit.

Do your research on the shops you’re going to visit to find out how they work. I visited a shop that refused to let me look at their inventory and only allowed the assistant to bring me dresses (DISASTER).

Don’t visit shops that don’t allow you to browse their inventory. Call ahead and be sure you know exactly how they work.

Do call ahead and confirm they carry the designer you’re looking for and any particular dresses you want to try on.

Don’t let pushy sales people pressure you into buying anything. Stand up for yourself and what YOU want.

The Perfect Duo

What really helped my dress search process was the perfect duo, the perfect sales associate and bringing the perfect guest(s). Finding a sales associate at the shops you go to that has a clear vision of what you want or has a similar style can help immensely. Through the duration of my shopping, I NEVER clicked with anyone besides my final sales associate. I sat down and showed him the exact designer and a few styles I liked and we gushed about how gorgeous her designs were. He pulled the exact dresses we were talking about and really pulled my vision together. He now owns his own boutique and has his own line of dresses. Finding someone who has a knack for wedding fashion versus someone who just needed a job makes ALL the difference.

If you aren’t as lucky to find the perfect sales associate, your trip is not wasted. Bringing the perfect guests along with you can help more than you realize. Of course your mother is going to tear up and your friends are going to tell you how amazing you look in everything; but, if they also aren’t afraid to tell it how it is, you’ve found the perfect guests. Bringing someone who knows your style, your facial expressions, and understands your vision can help you find the perfect dress. Your guests can do as much pulling of dresses and coaxing of the sales associate as you!

My Advice For Others

Overall, my advice would be as informed as you possibly can. Research your body type, your designers, your local boutiques, your local sales associates. Going in knowing as much as you possibly can will never be a bad thing. Sometimes you’ll need to go in and try a style of dress to confirm whether or not you like it and that’s ok! Pictures show so much differently than real life; however, going in with options and a plan can never steer you wrong.

Good luck to all searching for their dress. Have fun and enjoy the process! Leave me a comment below and tell me how you found your dress!

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Unique Wedding Color Schemes For Every Season

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Let’s talk color schemes! I love finding unique color schemes to coordinate with various times of the year. It’s your wedding day and you deserve to have a truly unique experience that your guests will enjoy and remember for years to come. I’m very excited to show you the schemes I’ve found recently that I’ve fallen in love with. If you guys enjoy this, let me know so I can do more of these in the future!

Winter Scheme

Crisp Winter Wonderland Color Scheme

I love this color scheme for winter because it adds a hint of color without overpowering the natural hues of the winter months. Many winter wedding color schemes use a deep dark color as the main accent. I love the subtlety of this scheme. The muted Tiffany blue compliments the season’s hues beautifully! A great unique scheme for winter weddings.

Spring Scheme

Bold Spring Color Scheme

Nothing says happy spring time like a bold vibrant color scheme. I love the overpowering happy and energizing colors for this season. After the long winter months, a bold spring celebration is in order and what a better celebration than a wedding? Love these bold tones rather than the usual spring pastels!

Summer Scheme

Peacock Inspired Summer Color Scheme

Who knew nature could inspire such a rich color scheme? God bless the peacocks! I love the idea of tapping into the darker end of the spectrum and dialing up the intensity. Can we just take a minute to admire how well these colors blend?

Fall Scheme

Romantic Fall Color Scheme

My ultimate favorite color scheme has got to be this blend of burgundy and navy tones. I love these deep colors for the fall. Straying away from the traditional fall tones of red, orange, and yellow is refreshing. Throwing in a shiny pop of copper or rose gold would be such a great romantic addition to this scheme.

Leave a comment below and tell me which color scheme is your favorite!

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Who To & Who Not To Invite To Your Wedding

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The struggle of having a gorgeous well thought-out wedding is balancing the budget so you can afford what you want and no go broke. When people look at trimming down their budget, usually, the first thing to go are the actual guests. It’s hard to keep a trimmed down list of everyone you want to be present on your special day. Most times, the guest list can start to get a little out of hand. Everyone seems to think they need an invite to your wedding…along with their friends, family, and significant others. Today I want to give you guys a little cheat sheet when it comes to the guest list. I’m here to help you figure out who to invite; and more importantly, who not to invite to your big day.

Friends

You’ve spoken a fair amount in the past year. Yes, they get an invite.

You haven’t spoken to them in the past year and don’t consider them to be a significant part of your life. No, don’t bother.

Parent’s Friends

Do you consider them to be family friends, or even your friends? If yes, they get an invite.

Have you talked to them more than twice for a lengthy amount of time? If so, don’t bother.

Extended Family

You’ve spoken a fair amount in the past year. Yes, they get an invite.

You haven’t spoken to them in the past year and don’t consider them to be a significant part of your life. No, don’t bother.

Guest’s Significant Others

Has your guest been with this person for over a year, already engaged to them, or married? If yes, they get an invite.

Has your guest been dating this person less than a year? If so, don’t bother.

Coworkers

Do you directly work with them and engage in conversation frequently? Yes, they get an invite.

Are they in another department and you don’t speak as often or freely with them? If so, don’t bother.

Leave a comment below to tell me if this helped you out with your wedding planning and if you’d like to see more in the future!
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Wedding Wednesday – Honeymooners Paradise

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For those who may not know, I just recently got back from my honeymoon; so, it’s been quite a while since I’ve sat down and written a post for you guys. I hope you all enjoyed the working girl mini-series last week while I was away! I sure had fun writing those posts for you all and I received so many wonderful comments and reactions to them. You make me feel so loved! 🙂


Speaking of love, I wanted to start kicking off all of my honeymoon posts today with a lovey post about our accommodations. (You know I wouldn’t visit a beautiful place and not take excessive amounts of pictures!) We went down to Jamaica to stay at one of Sandal’s gorgeous resorts, South Coast aka Whitehouse. We had an amazing time and the views were amazing no matter where you looked. More on that later, I wanted to dedicate this post to those brides to be out there researching various honeymoon locations. I knew we were going to have an amazing time; but, after visiting, I can officially say that Sandal’s knows how to treat their honeymooners right!


Upon arrival, Sandal’s makes sure you feel welcome and get a jump start on your relaxation (with help of champagne). Everyone gets a glass while you check in; but, after settling into our suite, a lovely butler brought a complimentary bottle of champagne and champagne flutes to our room for us to enjoy at our leisure. And enjoy we did! It’s hard not to enjoy while looking out at an amazing view! Later in the week, they left us a cute little package with a handwritten note from the manager congratulating us on our honeymoon, a sweet little door sign, and a form for a complimentary room service breakfast. (Which was much needed on a rainy morning towards the end of the trip!) It was such a sweet little gift and the handwritten note definitely meant a lot!


For those honeymooners that want to avoid the hustle and bustle of the Caribbean, I highly recommend the month of May as it seemed to be more deserted than I had anticipated. It made for a perfectly intimate honeymoon without being completely isolated. After going to an all-inclusive resort, I don’t see us traveling any other way ever again. It was so nice to just walk around without worrying about cost or if we brought enough cash with us. It was such a great time and I highly recommend Sandal’s Whitehouse to all looking for a nice getaway! Even if you think it’s going to be too much money, I recommend contacting a good travel agent in your area and have them look into it. I’ll leave a link here for a past post explaining the benefits of booking through a travel agent. You won’t want to miss it! I think you’ll be surprised at the kind of rates they can get you.

Leave me a comment below and tell me your dream honeymoon location!
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April Favorite Posts This Month

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It’s that time of the month again where I like to review the past month and reflect on my favorite posts (and your favorite posts). There were a lot of posts this month that really stood out to me. I think this month was the hardest decision I’ve faced yet to just pick four favorites. But, here they are! If you find one you’ve missed, click on the title to go take a look!

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DIY Body Scrub

Because when you can count on something being all natural and cheap, there is no contest!

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Cocktails Taste Better On Rooftops

Girl’s nights out are some of my favorite nights. Rooftops also make them pretty great too.

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Wedding Season Has Sprung

This won’t be the last this year! Check out some spring wedding guest fashion in this teal inspired post.

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5 Places To Eat This Weekend

Tired of your normal go-to restaurants? Here are some of my suggestions!

Let me know in the comments which was your favorite and what posts you’d like to see in May!
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5 Thoughts Every Bride Has While Planning

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Congratulations on your engagement! Now, enjoy ruthless non-stop planning for the next year of your life. It’s a wonderful burden and I wish you all the best! Mwah!

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I’m going to have the biggest, most extravagant wedding of the year!

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Wow, why is everything SO expensive?

Who cares

Who cares what kind of napkin rings there are!?

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I just hope I get a piece of cake…

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This is going to be the best day of our lives. 🙂

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Wedding Season Has Sprung

| Dress : JC Penny   |  Shoes : Charlotte Russe  |  Necklace  : Target  |

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The first of many wedding this year! It’s definitely going to be a crazy busy summer with all the many weddings we have on our plate. But, my favorite part, it also means some great outfit posts are coming your way! This outfit seemed perfect for this early spring afternoon and I’m definitely glad I went light on the layers. (Always fun dressing for the chaotic Midwest weather!) It was great to see that our nasty Midwest weather warmed up for the occasion! It was a beautiful day and we are so happy for our good friends to begin their lives together. It was a gorgeous setting and a very fun day!

Sadly, the pieces in this outfit have been in my wardrobe for quite some time but I’ve found some very close dupes. I actually prefer the new necklace I found for this outfit haha! Be sure to check it out. 🙂

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3 Biggest Benefits of a Smaller Wedding

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Trying to decide between a small or large wedding? Trying to convince your fiancé to go with a small wedding? Trying to explain to family and friends why you aren’t doing a big event? Look no further. Here are the only reasons you need!

Save Money

Spend thousands of dollars on a venue you’ll be in for less than twelve hours? Spend hundreds on food for everyone? Spend hundreds on flowers that will wilt in a couple days? Spend thousands on a dress you’ll only wear once? Spend hundreds on save the dates, invitations, and thank you’s that people are just going to throw away? I’m sorry. Do I need to continue?

More Intimate Occasion

Because nothing says thank you for being here and celebrating this incredibly intimate event of our lives like timed rotations to everyone at the reception to force a bit of small talk before moving on to the next person. This is such a huge day for the both of you, be sure to enjoy it by inviting your closest family and friends. Less people to talk to means you get to enjoy each other’s company more (and actual enjoy your day).

Less Pressure & Stress

Planning a wedding is like a full time job by the time you factor in finding the inspiration, finding local companies that can bring your inspiration to reality, price shopping local vendors, touring and meeting with vendors, and putting all the final little details on everything. If it wasn’t hard work, they wouldn’t have professionals you could pay to do all of it for you! Take some of the stress off of yourself and plan a smaller event. All of this craziness doesn’t even encompass the craziness of family. You may feel pressure from one or more family members, or soon to be family members, on what they envision your day looking like. The pressure to live up to everyone’s likes and dislikes can be overwhelming!

When it all comes down to it, my biggest point to make with this post is to really just streamline your event and make it the fun easygoing day you want. Having a smaller event really allows you to put your full attention to detail in other aspects of your day. Spend the day enjoying the smaller company you invited, save some money, and be less stressed. Who could want more than that?
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Wedding Wednesday – Picking The Date

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How fitting to have this be the first post of this love filled month! Let’s talk about the very first wedding planning you’ll do after the excitement of the engagement has worn off. I don’t think many people realize that picking the date is such a huge part of the planning. Depending on the time of year, it will dictate the location, color schemes, flower season, outfit choices, EVERYTHING. Here are some helpful tips to help you narrow down the 365 days you have to choose from!

Convenience

This goes for you as well as your guests. You may want to wait until after graduation, or making sure you get married before you move across the country from your family, etc. As for your guests, if you or some of your most important family/friends are still students, waiting for summer/spring/winter break may be a good choice to avoid overcomplicating schedules. Making sure you take all the big milestones into consideration for yourself and your guests will ensure you all have a great time!

Season

Depending on the climate you live in may very well have a major role to play in selecting your date. If you are like me and hate the snow, having a winter wedding may not be for you. The season will dictate where you will have your wedding (indoor vs outdoor), what your guests will wear, and who may be able to make it (if you select the blizzard months your guests may not make the drive).

Significance

If you have any dates in mind that you would love to use for their significance, those would be a top choice. Your anniversary, Valentine’s Day, your grandfather’s birthday that you wanted to honor.

Colors

Many young girls dream of their wedding and Pinterest has made that habit all the easier over the years. You may have a color scheme in mind that you have decided you need to have. Depending on the colors, you may be limited to certain seasons where those colors look the best.

Spatiality

Another factor you may want to consider is the space between your wedding and other large holidays, birthdays, or other weddings. The last thing you want to do is overwhelm yourself, and others, by squeezing in too many events in such a short span.

All of these factors won’t apply to everyone because everyone’s opinions and tastes differ. Some people may want a wedding on a large holiday or may not care which season they get married. These are just helpful tips to keep in mind when you are completely unsure what date you want to get married on. I hope these helped narrow your scope! Happy wedding planning!
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Wedding Wednesday – Picking The Perfect Bridesmaid Dresses

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Yes, it is your day, but don’t forget that your ladies said yes to being a part of it. Make sure they look just as great as you do! Picking a great choice for them will ultimately make your wedding pictures turn out so much better with a cohesive look. Be conscious and considerate when picking out your girl’s dresses by following a few important guidelines.

Style

The first and one of the most important things to consider when selecting your ladies’ dresses is the style. Making sure that their style coincides with your dress is key to making your wedding party look flawless. If you pick a tight lace dress and then dress your girls in a heap on tulle, that’s not going to look harmonious on your big day. If you pick that tight lace dress, put your girls in a dress with some lace detail. If your dress is strapless, putting your ladies in a strapless might look like a great fit. Find something about your dress that stands out and that can easily be translated to your girl’s dresses.

Form

If the aspect of your dress you’d like to translate to your ladies’ dresses is something to do with the form, be sure to check that all your girls feel comfortable and can pull off that form. If you’ve got some busty bridesmaids, maybe strapless dresses aren’t such a good idea. No one wants to pull up their dress every five minutes and you don’t want that to see that in every picture either! Talk to your girl’s and get their thoughts! If you have some that don’t feel comfortable with a skin tight or a short dress, definitely take their opinions into consideration. It’s your day but you already have your dream dress. Let them be comfortable for your big day!

Color

Obviously take into consideration the color! That’s the major one everyone will notice first! If you’re letting your girls go pick out their own dress and just giving them a color requirement, you may want to think twice. There are so many different shades of a single color and don’t want to find out on your big day that the bridesmaid’s dresses don’t match!

Details

Now to the fun part, all the gorgeous details! Give your girls a fun belt that is similar to yours, add a simple cover up with the same lace that your dress is made of, add a jewel incrusted pendant with your wedding colors to add a special pop to their dresses.

Whatever you decide on, make sure you and your girls love it. It’s going to be a much happier process and a much happier day if you are all comfortable and happy! Happy wedding planning to you all!

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Wedding Wednesday – 10 Registry Items You Will Forget You Need

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The registry is supposed to be one of the least stressful parts of the wedding. Online shopping where you don’t have to spend any of your own money? YES PUH-LEASE! I know making the registry sounds simple enough but you’ll find that you forgot a few essentials. Yes, grab your pots & pans, your towels, and your new blender. But here are ten things I know most of you will forget to grab that are a must!

Steamer

Irons & ironing boards are bulky, heavy, and really just take up too much room. Do yourself a favor and pick up a steamer! They’re much easier to use (so no more “I don’t know how to iron” from hubby) and compact enough that you can travel with them!

Luggage

Speaking of travel, get you and your new hubby some nice new luggage for the honeymoon!

Sewing Kit

Mom isn’t going to be there for you and hubby to sew a button back on or patch a jacket in a pinch. Sewing isn’t as hard as you think it is. I think you’ll find that this kit will really come in handy!

Patio Furniture

You may have everything picked out for the inside of your home; but, be sure you don’t forget the outside. Get a cute small patio set that you and hubby can enjoy dinner or a drink outside.

Tupperware

By now, you’ve accumulated an unnecessary amount of plastic Tupperware from mom, dad, grandma, and not to mention your hubby’s family. Ditch the old well-used stuff and get some of the nicer glass Tupperware.

Clothes Hangers

Your wardrobe is about to double with the addition of your spouse. You’re going to need more hangers! I’m always scowering the house looking for extras!

Set of Tools

Every new home needs a good set of tools. You can’t imagine how many things you’ll have to repair and tweak along the way! At least pick up a small set of tools for the small stuff.

Comforter

Odds are, you’re still using the same comforter that you’ve had for years. Do the both of you a favor and get a new one that you can both enjoy! (Same goes for the sheets. I’m sure your hubby would appreciate not having to sleep on your hot pink sheets you’ve had since high school.)

Grill

Because everything tastes better when it’s grilled. Your hubby will love it so much that you’ll get out of having to cook! Make him the grill master!

Safe

You both have so many important documents so please please be sure you keep it safe! Get a nice safe and be sure to keep it somewhere out of sight. You’ll definitely thank yourself in the long run!

I hope you enjoyed this fun little post today. Leave a comment below of other items you think are often missed on wedding registries

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Wedding Wednesday – Is A Traditional Wedding For You?

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Today’s blog is going to be more of a wordy post about a topic not discussed much (at least not where I am from). This Wedding Wednesday post is dedicated towards choosing between a traditional vs a non-traditional wedding. This topic has been on my mind for quite some time and I thought it was time to put it all down in writing for those of you who have the same mind set as I do.

To me, when I think traditional wedding, I think of a chapel ceremony then retiring off to a large venue with those awful ceiling drapes and multi-colored lighting. Food buffet as far as the eye can see. A cake that stands taller than you (even in those gorgeous heels you spent way too much money on). With all your friends and family (that weird second cousin you’ve met twice in your life, your mom’s aunt that you met when you were 18 months old but are obligated to know their name, and all the friends you’ve promised to invite along the way).

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When I got engaged, that was the wedding I started planning. I made arrangements and signed contracts. I absolutely LOVE planning so I was a nonstop machine, checking things off of my to-do list left and right! Until, one day I sat down with my fiancé and we started talking about what we envisioned from our “big day”. That’s when I/we realized. Why in the world was I planning this big traditional wedding? We aren’t flashy people. We can’t hold a smile or conversation that long with so many different people. We weren’t even fans of larger crowds. So, why?

At that point we both realized that the wedding we were planning, wasn’t ours. Lots of calls and cancelled contracts later we finally had a sigh of relief. By this time, we had already been engaged for a year and a half (yes we were initially planning on a long engagement) and were over waiting. We wanted to get married now! We sent out the bat signal to our family members and a few close friends and decided to get married almost immediately.

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Can I just tell you how many people were taken aback by our non-traditional ways? I can’t tell you how many people asked if we were pregnant, if we were moving, etc. For some reason, people couldn’t just wrap their minds around the fact that this style was more our personality. But once my fiancé and I had talked more openly to everyone about why we changed it and how we felt about the whole ordeal, suddenly everyone understood and everyone said that this smaller wedding “seems more our style”. Why was it that no one understood our decision before explaining our thoughts? If it was “so us”, why was their question at all? If everyone knew a small wedding was more our pace, why did no one throw up a red flag and say, “Guys, I really think you really need to think about planning a smaller wedding!” Because going smaller is not the norm nowadays.

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When it was all said and done, our small wedding cost us less than (or at least as much as) JUST the venue for the larger event. (Yeah, not joking. That’s how disgustingly expensive weddings are.) Now that our big day has come and gone, I can confidently tell you that we had an even better time than I previously thought possible with the big event. The smaller intimate ceremony allowed us to feel more comfortable talking about our feelings in front of other people (which neither of us are too keen on). And having the smaller reception let us have a blast with some of our favorite people. We were able to spend more time with everyone than have to constantly make rounds to talk to every.single.person. I think the guests enjoyed themselves more as well. A more laidback smaller setting allowed our guests to feel more comfortable as well. It really seemed like a big party instead of making it into this big formality.

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I wish my fiancé and I had sat down months prior to starting the planning. I’d be lying if I said that societal norms didn’t take control of my subconscious as I went through the motions of planning a larger wedding. So, I urge you brides out there to sit down with your partner and really think and imagine your big day. Planning A wedding is so much different than planning YOUR wedding. Once we envisioned bits and pieces of what we saw our day looking like, the decision was simple. My point is, learn from our mistake. Take your time to run through what you, as a couple, see your day looking like. What you both feel comfortable with. Everything always works out. Happy wedding planning to you all!

*All pictures were taken by Capture Life Portraits. Stay tuned to see more!

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