How To Find YOUR Wedding Dress

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This was a highly requested topic by many of you and for good reason! Selecting your wedding dress isn’t the easy beautiful process that you see on TV or in movies. It’s a tough process but the process can be made much simpler with some planning. It’s one of the most important details of wedding planning and deserves to be as stress free as possible. For many people, it’s one of the most stressful due to lack of availability in your area, body image issues, not knowing what style you like, budget, etc… Needless to say, there are way too many factors that come to play in this decision. Let’s make it easier!

Deciding What You Want

I think one of the best things I did during this stage of selecting my dress was to look at models with similar body types to mine. I knew, with my body shape, a dress I saw on a deathly thin model was not going to look the same on my body. The worst thing you can do is create unrealistic standards of dresses in your mind. Once you know how dresses look like on girls with similar body types to your own, you’ll be able to see the styles and fabrics that will best fit your frame.

Pulling Inspiration

Pinterest, Pinterest, Pinterest. Pinterest is great to search around for the styles you’re wanting once you’ve seen how they work on your body type. My one problem with Pinterest is that it’s overflowing with thin models in fabulous custom unattainable dresses. Before you flock to Pinterest, it’s essential to know your styles that you have to work with. Pull a few images that best represent what you want to look at and save them BEFORE going to a dress boutique. Knowing a smaller scope to look at when you get to the shop is great and gives you direction.

Dress Boutique Do’s & Do Not’s

Do search for certain designers to see what they actually carry and what dresses are actually available in your area.

Don’t rely on your Pinterest finds to actually exist and be stocked at every shop you visit.

Do your research on the shops you’re going to visit to find out how they work. I visited a shop that refused to let me look at their inventory and only allowed the assistant to bring me dresses (DISASTER).

Don’t visit shops that don’t allow you to browse their inventory. Call ahead and be sure you know exactly how they work.

Do call ahead and confirm they carry the designer you’re looking for and any particular dresses you want to try on.

Don’t let pushy sales people pressure you into buying anything. Stand up for yourself and what YOU want.

The Perfect Duo

What really helped my dress search process was the perfect duo, the perfect sales associate and bringing the perfect guest(s). Finding a sales associate at the shops you go to that has a clear vision of what you want or has a similar style can help immensely. Through the duration of my shopping, I NEVER clicked with anyone besides my final sales associate. I sat down and showed him the exact designer and a few styles I liked and we gushed about how gorgeous her designs were. He pulled the exact dresses we were talking about and really pulled my vision together. He now owns his own boutique and has his own line of dresses. Finding someone who has a knack for wedding fashion versus someone who just needed a job makes ALL the difference.

If you aren’t as lucky to find the perfect sales associate, your trip is not wasted. Bringing the perfect guests along with you can help more than you realize. Of course your mother is going to tear up and your friends are going to tell you how amazing you look in everything; but, if they also aren’t afraid to tell it how it is, you’ve found the perfect guests. Bringing someone who knows your style, your facial expressions, and understands your vision can help you find the perfect dress. Your guests can do as much pulling of dresses and coaxing of the sales associate as you!

My Advice For Others

Overall, my advice would be as informed as you possibly can. Research your body type, your designers, your local boutiques, your local sales associates. Going in knowing as much as you possibly can will never be a bad thing. Sometimes you’ll need to go in and try a style of dress to confirm whether or not you like it and that’s ok! Pictures show so much differently than real life; however, going in with options and a plan can never steer you wrong.

Good luck to all searching for their dress. Have fun and enjoy the process! Leave me a comment below and tell me how you found your dress!

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5 Thoughts Every Bride Has While Planning

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Congratulations on your engagement! Now, enjoy ruthless non-stop planning for the next year of your life. It’s a wonderful burden and I wish you all the best! Mwah!

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I’m going to have the biggest, most extravagant wedding of the year!

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Wow, why is everything SO expensive?

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Who cares what kind of napkin rings there are!?

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I just hope I get a piece of cake…

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This is going to be the best day of our lives. 🙂

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Wedding Wednesday – Picking The Perfect Bridesmaid Dresses

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Yes, it is your day, but don’t forget that your ladies said yes to being a part of it. Make sure they look just as great as you do! Picking a great choice for them will ultimately make your wedding pictures turn out so much better with a cohesive look. Be conscious and considerate when picking out your girl’s dresses by following a few important guidelines.

Style

The first and one of the most important things to consider when selecting your ladies’ dresses is the style. Making sure that their style coincides with your dress is key to making your wedding party look flawless. If you pick a tight lace dress and then dress your girls in a heap on tulle, that’s not going to look harmonious on your big day. If you pick that tight lace dress, put your girls in a dress with some lace detail. If your dress is strapless, putting your ladies in a strapless might look like a great fit. Find something about your dress that stands out and that can easily be translated to your girl’s dresses.

Form

If the aspect of your dress you’d like to translate to your ladies’ dresses is something to do with the form, be sure to check that all your girls feel comfortable and can pull off that form. If you’ve got some busty bridesmaids, maybe strapless dresses aren’t such a good idea. No one wants to pull up their dress every five minutes and you don’t want that to see that in every picture either! Talk to your girl’s and get their thoughts! If you have some that don’t feel comfortable with a skin tight or a short dress, definitely take their opinions into consideration. It’s your day but you already have your dream dress. Let them be comfortable for your big day!

Color

Obviously take into consideration the color! That’s the major one everyone will notice first! If you’re letting your girls go pick out their own dress and just giving them a color requirement, you may want to think twice. There are so many different shades of a single color and don’t want to find out on your big day that the bridesmaid’s dresses don’t match!

Details

Now to the fun part, all the gorgeous details! Give your girls a fun belt that is similar to yours, add a simple cover up with the same lace that your dress is made of, add a jewel incrusted pendant with your wedding colors to add a special pop to their dresses.

Whatever you decide on, make sure you and your girls love it. It’s going to be a much happier process and a much happier day if you are all comfortable and happy! Happy wedding planning to you all!

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Wedding Wednesday – The Dress

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I have officially peaked. I will never wear a more beautiful dress ever again. I am absolutely in love with my dress and I still love it afterwards. Despite it’s not so great price tag, it was my perfect dress. If you read my Most Expensive Delivery I Have Ever Received post, then you know the struggle I went through to find this gorgeous piece. I’ve linked that post here so we don’t have to talk about any negative experiences in this post!

Kitty Chen is definitely my favorite designer from now on. I highly recommend you check out her designs (whether or not you’re getting married) because I know you’ll fall in love. All her designs are so unique and beautiful; however, Makayla is something else. The front of the dress is obviously gorgeous but the back is to die for! As soon as I tried it on, I knew. Not being able to decide which sided was my favorite was definitely a sign that it needed to be mine. To customize this dress a bit more for my taste, we raised up that gorgeous pendant in the back so that it hit my mid-back area. Leaving the pendant where it originally was would’ve been beautiful but I felt that my back was a little too bare with the pendant hanging so low.

Every time I see this dress I fall in love with it all over again. I’m sure that feeling will always linger when I revisit these pictures and memories. Now off to get this beautiful baby preserved! I’m not quite sure what I want to do with it just yet. I can’t even imagine selling this beauty yet.

For those that have done this before, what are some creative things you have done with your dress?

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*All pictures were taken by Capture Life Portraits. Stay tuned to see more!

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Wedding Day Accessories

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Happy Wedding Wednesday Everyone! I wanted to talk to you guys about some day of accessories I’ve picked up to bring the whole look together. Since I can’t share the dress yet, the least I can do is show the accessories, right? I’m not your conventional bride by any means. I don’t want something old, I don’t want to borrow something, I don’t want something blue, BUT I will take everything new. J That whole saying just never really made sense to me and I never thought it was something I would actually do, so I didn’t! (Don’t be afraid to break traditions in order to maintain your personality.) Also, can we talk about the garters? What is the point of that? I don’t get it nor do I want it. Just give me the essentials and I’ll be perfectly content. So, that is exactly what I purchased.

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Shoes

Wedding shoes are beautiful and extravagant and their prices often reflect that. However, I know myself and I know that as soon as pictures are done, I’m throwing the shoes in the corner and rocking it barefoot all night. (You can call me gross, that’s fine) Heels are beautiful but that beauty often comes at a price! Instead, I opted for a lower heel (three and a half inches is my low) that was neutral enough that I know I would wear after the wedding for everyday occasions. Which is how I found these beautiful little babies. They’re definitely on the plain side but after the wedding celebrations, I can see myself pairing these with a pair of rose colored jeans and a blue and white striped buttoned down blouse. Ugh! I can’t wait to actually get some use out of these! I found these originally on Macy’s but I purchased them on Amazon for the same price (I like Amazon’s return policy more than Macy’s).

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Hairpiece

This was too tempting to pass up. I knew I wanted a little something for my hair and knew I needed it to pack a punch of bling. Luckily, the boutique I purchased my dress at, had a variety of selection and this wasn’t too bad of a price! I’m really excited to see this pull together all of my bling on the big day!

Earrings

The bling doesn’t stop there. I got these beauties to compliment the hairpiece. I like the subtly of these earrings. They aren’t over the top and huge (like some of my other earrings can get). They are just enough sparkle! I picked these up at Nordstrom Rack for a great price, considering the brand.

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Wedding Wednesday – The Most Expensive Delivery I Have Ever Received

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After three and a half long months, I received the most expensive delivery I’ve ever received – my wedding dress. I am still as much in love with it as I was the first time I put it on. I think it somehow got more gorgeous over the past couple months.

Finding this dress was the most stressful process that I’ve done thus far in the wedding planning process. I had a specific taste of what I wanted in mind but had no idea what style of dress I wanted. This made it very difficult to describe what I liked to the poor consultants who attempted to help me. I went to four stores before finding the right store, and the right consultant, for me. Some of the earlier stores, I won’t mention any names, were the kind of store that the consultant was the only one allowed to peruse the inventory. Needless to say, every dress she pulled was wrong for me. I definitely had more luck at the other stores that I was actually allowed to look at their inventory (I don’t think that was too much to ask). However, none of the other stores had exactly what I was looking for, even though I had no idea what I wanted. I just hadn’t experienced the “This is MY dress” moment yet.

All this changed when I finally went to Stacey’s Bridal. It took me way too long to think of going here to search for thee dress. I purchased both of my prom dresses here and have always had the most wonderful experience. My consultant could read my thoughts like a dream and he knew exactly what I was after. I told him what designer I was looking towards for inspiration and he actually pulled that designer’s collection immediately for me to look at. Safe to say, I found THE dress in less than an hour. It was such a breath of fresh air to have a consultant who listened to me and watched my facial expressions when my words fell short of my thoughts.

Now, after all of the pain of looking for a dress I’m so happy to have it here and know that it looks just as beautiful as I remember. And thank goodness I don’t have to go on a drastic wedding fad diet to fit into it. It’s the perfect size and I couldn’t be happier! Of course, I can’t post pictures because of a sneaky fiancé. It’s safe to say I’ll post plenty of pictures of it in a year. 🙂

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