Who To & Who Not To Invite To Your Wedding

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The struggle of having a gorgeous well thought-out wedding is balancing the budget so you can afford what you want and no go broke. When people look at trimming down their budget, usually, the first thing to go are the actual guests. It’s hard to keep a trimmed down list of everyone you want to be present on your special day. Most times, the guest list can start to get a little out of hand. Everyone seems to think they need an invite to your wedding…along with their friends, family, and significant others. Today I want to give you guys a little cheat sheet when it comes to the guest list. I’m here to help you figure out who to invite; and more importantly, who not to invite to your big day.

Friends

You’ve spoken a fair amount in the past year. Yes, they get an invite.

You haven’t spoken to them in the past year and don’t consider them to be a significant part of your life. No, don’t bother.

Parent’s Friends

Do you consider them to be family friends, or even your friends? If yes, they get an invite.

Have you talked to them more than twice for a lengthy amount of time? If so, don’t bother.

Extended Family

You’ve spoken a fair amount in the past year. Yes, they get an invite.

You haven’t spoken to them in the past year and don’t consider them to be a significant part of your life. No, don’t bother.

Guest’s Significant Others

Has your guest been with this person for over a year, already engaged to them, or married? If yes, they get an invite.

Has your guest been dating this person less than a year? If so, don’t bother.

Coworkers

Do you directly work with them and engage in conversation frequently? Yes, they get an invite.

Are they in another department and you don’t speak as often or freely with them? If so, don’t bother.

Leave a comment below to tell me if this helped you out with your wedding planning and if you’d like to see more in the future!
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5 Thoughts Every Bride Has While Planning

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Congratulations on your engagement! Now, enjoy ruthless non-stop planning for the next year of your life. It’s a wonderful burden and I wish you all the best! Mwah!

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I’m going to have the biggest, most extravagant wedding of the year!

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Wow, why is everything SO expensive?

Who cares

Who cares what kind of napkin rings there are!?

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I just hope I get a piece of cake…

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This is going to be the best day of our lives. 🙂

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Wedding Wednesday – Picking The Date

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How fitting to have this be the first post of this love filled month! Let’s talk about the very first wedding planning you’ll do after the excitement of the engagement has worn off. I don’t think many people realize that picking the date is such a huge part of the planning. Depending on the time of year, it will dictate the location, color schemes, flower season, outfit choices, EVERYTHING. Here are some helpful tips to help you narrow down the 365 days you have to choose from!

Convenience

This goes for you as well as your guests. You may want to wait until after graduation, or making sure you get married before you move across the country from your family, etc. As for your guests, if you or some of your most important family/friends are still students, waiting for summer/spring/winter break may be a good choice to avoid overcomplicating schedules. Making sure you take all the big milestones into consideration for yourself and your guests will ensure you all have a great time!

Season

Depending on the climate you live in may very well have a major role to play in selecting your date. If you are like me and hate the snow, having a winter wedding may not be for you. The season will dictate where you will have your wedding (indoor vs outdoor), what your guests will wear, and who may be able to make it (if you select the blizzard months your guests may not make the drive).

Significance

If you have any dates in mind that you would love to use for their significance, those would be a top choice. Your anniversary, Valentine’s Day, your grandfather’s birthday that you wanted to honor.

Colors

Many young girls dream of their wedding and Pinterest has made that habit all the easier over the years. You may have a color scheme in mind that you have decided you need to have. Depending on the colors, you may be limited to certain seasons where those colors look the best.

Spatiality

Another factor you may want to consider is the space between your wedding and other large holidays, birthdays, or other weddings. The last thing you want to do is overwhelm yourself, and others, by squeezing in too many events in such a short span.

All of these factors won’t apply to everyone because everyone’s opinions and tastes differ. Some people may want a wedding on a large holiday or may not care which season they get married. These are just helpful tips to keep in mind when you are completely unsure what date you want to get married on. I hope these helped narrow your scope! Happy wedding planning!
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Wedding Wednesday – Is A Traditional Wedding For You?

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Today’s blog is going to be more of a wordy post about a topic not discussed much (at least not where I am from). This Wedding Wednesday post is dedicated towards choosing between a traditional vs a non-traditional wedding. This topic has been on my mind for quite some time and I thought it was time to put it all down in writing for those of you who have the same mind set as I do.

To me, when I think traditional wedding, I think of a chapel ceremony then retiring off to a large venue with those awful ceiling drapes and multi-colored lighting. Food buffet as far as the eye can see. A cake that stands taller than you (even in those gorgeous heels you spent way too much money on). With all your friends and family (that weird second cousin you’ve met twice in your life, your mom’s aunt that you met when you were 18 months old but are obligated to know their name, and all the friends you’ve promised to invite along the way).

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When I got engaged, that was the wedding I started planning. I made arrangements and signed contracts. I absolutely LOVE planning so I was a nonstop machine, checking things off of my to-do list left and right! Until, one day I sat down with my fiancé and we started talking about what we envisioned from our “big day”. That’s when I/we realized. Why in the world was I planning this big traditional wedding? We aren’t flashy people. We can’t hold a smile or conversation that long with so many different people. We weren’t even fans of larger crowds. So, why?

At that point we both realized that the wedding we were planning, wasn’t ours. Lots of calls and cancelled contracts later we finally had a sigh of relief. By this time, we had already been engaged for a year and a half (yes we were initially planning on a long engagement) and were over waiting. We wanted to get married now! We sent out the bat signal to our family members and a few close friends and decided to get married almost immediately.

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Can I just tell you how many people were taken aback by our non-traditional ways? I can’t tell you how many people asked if we were pregnant, if we were moving, etc. For some reason, people couldn’t just wrap their minds around the fact that this style was more our personality. But once my fiancé and I had talked more openly to everyone about why we changed it and how we felt about the whole ordeal, suddenly everyone understood and everyone said that this smaller wedding “seems more our style”. Why was it that no one understood our decision before explaining our thoughts? If it was “so us”, why was their question at all? If everyone knew a small wedding was more our pace, why did no one throw up a red flag and say, “Guys, I really think you really need to think about planning a smaller wedding!” Because going smaller is not the norm nowadays.

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When it was all said and done, our small wedding cost us less than (or at least as much as) JUST the venue for the larger event. (Yeah, not joking. That’s how disgustingly expensive weddings are.) Now that our big day has come and gone, I can confidently tell you that we had an even better time than I previously thought possible with the big event. The smaller intimate ceremony allowed us to feel more comfortable talking about our feelings in front of other people (which neither of us are too keen on). And having the smaller reception let us have a blast with some of our favorite people. We were able to spend more time with everyone than have to constantly make rounds to talk to every.single.person. I think the guests enjoyed themselves more as well. A more laidback smaller setting allowed our guests to feel more comfortable as well. It really seemed like a big party instead of making it into this big formality.

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I wish my fiancé and I had sat down months prior to starting the planning. I’d be lying if I said that societal norms didn’t take control of my subconscious as I went through the motions of planning a larger wedding. So, I urge you brides out there to sit down with your partner and really think and imagine your big day. Planning A wedding is so much different than planning YOUR wedding. Once we envisioned bits and pieces of what we saw our day looking like, the decision was simple. My point is, learn from our mistake. Take your time to run through what you, as a couple, see your day looking like. What you both feel comfortable with. Everything always works out. Happy wedding planning to you all!

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