Wedding Wednesday – Is A Traditional Wedding For You?

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Today’s blog is going to be more of a wordy post about a topic not discussed much (at least not where I am from). This Wedding Wednesday post is dedicated towards choosing between a traditional vs a non-traditional wedding. This topic has been on my mind for quite some time and I thought it was time to put it all down in writing for those of you who have the same mind set as I do.

To me, when I think traditional wedding, I think of a chapel ceremony then retiring off to a large venue with those awful ceiling drapes and multi-colored lighting. Food buffet as far as the eye can see. A cake that stands taller than you (even in those gorgeous heels you spent way too much money on). With all your friends and family (that weird second cousin you’ve met twice in your life, your mom’s aunt that you met when you were 18 months old but are obligated to know their name, and all the friends you’ve promised to invite along the way).

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When I got engaged, that was the wedding I started planning. I made arrangements and signed contracts. I absolutely LOVE planning so I was a nonstop machine, checking things off of my to-do list left and right! Until, one day I sat down with my fiancé and we started talking about what we envisioned from our “big day”. That’s when I/we realized. Why in the world was I planning this big traditional wedding? We aren’t flashy people. We can’t hold a smile or conversation that long with so many different people. We weren’t even fans of larger crowds. So, why?

At that point we both realized that the wedding we were planning, wasn’t ours. Lots of calls and cancelled contracts later we finally had a sigh of relief. By this time, we had already been engaged for a year and a half (yes we were initially planning on a long engagement) and were over waiting. We wanted to get married now! We sent out the bat signal to our family members and a few close friends and decided to get married almost immediately.

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Can I just tell you how many people were taken aback by our non-traditional ways? I can’t tell you how many people asked if we were pregnant, if we were moving, etc. For some reason, people couldn’t just wrap their minds around the fact that this style was more our personality. But once my fiancé and I had talked more openly to everyone about why we changed it and how we felt about the whole ordeal, suddenly everyone understood and everyone said that this smaller wedding “seems more our style”. Why was it that no one understood our decision before explaining our thoughts? If it was “so us”, why was their question at all? If everyone knew a small wedding was more our pace, why did no one throw up a red flag and say, “Guys, I really think you really need to think about planning a smaller wedding!” Because going smaller is not the norm nowadays.

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When it was all said and done, our small wedding cost us less than (or at least as much as) JUST the venue for the larger event. (Yeah, not joking. That’s how disgustingly expensive weddings are.) Now that our big day has come and gone, I can confidently tell you that we had an even better time than I previously thought possible with the big event. The smaller intimate ceremony allowed us to feel more comfortable talking about our feelings in front of other people (which neither of us are too keen on). And having the smaller reception let us have a blast with some of our favorite people. We were able to spend more time with everyone than have to constantly make rounds to talk to every.single.person. I think the guests enjoyed themselves more as well. A more laidback smaller setting allowed our guests to feel more comfortable as well. It really seemed like a big party instead of making it into this big formality.

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I wish my fiancé and I had sat down months prior to starting the planning. I’d be lying if I said that societal norms didn’t take control of my subconscious as I went through the motions of planning a larger wedding. So, I urge you brides out there to sit down with your partner and really think and imagine your big day. Planning A wedding is so much different than planning YOUR wedding. Once we envisioned bits and pieces of what we saw our day looking like, the decision was simple. My point is, learn from our mistake. Take your time to run through what you, as a couple, see your day looking like. What you both feel comfortable with. Everything always works out. Happy wedding planning to you all!

*All pictures were taken by Capture Life Portraits. Stay tuned to see more!

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Wedding Wednesday – Piece of Cake!

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For those who don’t know, I got married this last weekend and that’s why I may have been a little absent this past week or so. I’m getting back into the swing of things and I thought there wouldn’t be anything better to kick it off again than a super sweet post. (See what I did there?)

One of the many highlights of the day for everyone, was the cake. I’ve never had so many people rave about something in my entire life! Of course the cake was amazing; but, I’m not a big cake person so the only bite I had was the obligatory husband shoving it in my face bite. I’m obviously in love with the look of the cake, as was everyone, but everyone said it tasted as good as it looked! I mean, you can’t really go wrong with almond flavored anything. Right?

I ordered the cake from a small bakery called The Sweetest Thing. She does amazing work and I’ve had many of her goodies before so I can attest to her delicious cookies and cupcakes. She hand painted this cake and attached edible gold leaf accents to match my inspiration picture exactly! We all know Pinterest is full of many wonderful ideas, a lot of which are far-fetched and often unattainable. She is a dream maker! I’m absolutely in love with how it turned out!

She does such fabulous work and is so easy going. I definitely recommend The Sweetest Thing to everyone! I know who will be doing all my baking from now on! Be sure to check out her Facebook page for some more work she has done. She has some really innovative ideas for Thanksgiving goodies she would love to make this season. Two thumbs up, I highly recommend her!

*All pictures were taken by Capture Life Portraits. Stay tuned to see more!

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Wedding Day Accessories

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Happy Wedding Wednesday Everyone! I wanted to talk to you guys about some day of accessories I’ve picked up to bring the whole look together. Since I can’t share the dress yet, the least I can do is show the accessories, right? I’m not your conventional bride by any means. I don’t want something old, I don’t want to borrow something, I don’t want something blue, BUT I will take everything new. J That whole saying just never really made sense to me and I never thought it was something I would actually do, so I didn’t! (Don’t be afraid to break traditions in order to maintain your personality.) Also, can we talk about the garters? What is the point of that? I don’t get it nor do I want it. Just give me the essentials and I’ll be perfectly content. So, that is exactly what I purchased.

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Shoes

Wedding shoes are beautiful and extravagant and their prices often reflect that. However, I know myself and I know that as soon as pictures are done, I’m throwing the shoes in the corner and rocking it barefoot all night. (You can call me gross, that’s fine) Heels are beautiful but that beauty often comes at a price! Instead, I opted for a lower heel (three and a half inches is my low) that was neutral enough that I know I would wear after the wedding for everyday occasions. Which is how I found these beautiful little babies. They’re definitely on the plain side but after the wedding celebrations, I can see myself pairing these with a pair of rose colored jeans and a blue and white striped buttoned down blouse. Ugh! I can’t wait to actually get some use out of these! I found these originally on Macy’s but I purchased them on Amazon for the same price (I like Amazon’s return policy more than Macy’s).

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Hairpiece

This was too tempting to pass up. I knew I wanted a little something for my hair and knew I needed it to pack a punch of bling. Luckily, the boutique I purchased my dress at, had a variety of selection and this wasn’t too bad of a price! I’m really excited to see this pull together all of my bling on the big day!

Earrings

The bling doesn’t stop there. I got these beauties to compliment the hairpiece. I like the subtly of these earrings. They aren’t over the top and huge (like some of my other earrings can get). They are just enough sparkle! I picked these up at Nordstrom Rack for a great price, considering the brand.

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Wedding Wednesday : Invitations and Thank You’s

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Don’t you just love when you schedule a post for a specific day and it never posts! So frustrating! That’s why I’m bringing you another Wedding Wednesday post on a Thursday in honor of these gorgeous beauties right here. I recently received my wedding invitations and thank you’s in the mail and I’m obsessing over them. I used Minted for the invites and honestly can’t say enough good things! This service was so easy to use and so simple to create custom designs. They have such a large assortment of foil pressed stationary right now (which is obviously what I flocked to). This rose gold foil hits me right in the feels! It matches our wedding colors completely and I love water colored look of the gray. These are such high quality and decently priced, all things considering. Minted even threw in complimentary protective slips to make sure my invitations survived all kinds of crazy from the postal service. I’m in love with the way they turned out and I can’t wait for all of our guests to receive them.

Minted is also I really great place to get art or any kind of prints. I ordered a foiled print of my state (so cute) and it adds a great pop to my gallery wall. I highly recommend this company! I haven’t been disappointed yet!

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Wedding Wednesday – The Most Expensive Delivery I Have Ever Received

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After three and a half long months, I received the most expensive delivery I’ve ever received – my wedding dress. I am still as much in love with it as I was the first time I put it on. I think it somehow got more gorgeous over the past couple months.

Finding this dress was the most stressful process that I’ve done thus far in the wedding planning process. I had a specific taste of what I wanted in mind but had no idea what style of dress I wanted. This made it very difficult to describe what I liked to the poor consultants who attempted to help me. I went to four stores before finding the right store, and the right consultant, for me. Some of the earlier stores, I won’t mention any names, were the kind of store that the consultant was the only one allowed to peruse the inventory. Needless to say, every dress she pulled was wrong for me. I definitely had more luck at the other stores that I was actually allowed to look at their inventory (I don’t think that was too much to ask). However, none of the other stores had exactly what I was looking for, even though I had no idea what I wanted. I just hadn’t experienced the “This is MY dress” moment yet.

All this changed when I finally went to Stacey’s Bridal. It took me way too long to think of going here to search for thee dress. I purchased both of my prom dresses here and have always had the most wonderful experience. My consultant could read my thoughts like a dream and he knew exactly what I was after. I told him what designer I was looking towards for inspiration and he actually pulled that designer’s collection immediately for me to look at. Safe to say, I found THE dress in less than an hour. It was such a breath of fresh air to have a consultant who listened to me and watched my facial expressions when my words fell short of my thoughts.

Now, after all of the pain of looking for a dress I’m so happy to have it here and know that it looks just as beautiful as I remember. And thank goodness I don’t have to go on a drastic wedding fad diet to fit into it. It’s the perfect size and I couldn’t be happier! Of course, I can’t post pictures because of a sneaky fiancé. It’s safe to say I’ll post plenty of pictures of it in a year. 🙂

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